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Doesn’t good old fashioned pickiness come into play?“For straight folks—me for example,” my friend said, “it’s just so much easier: I know I like vanilla and can appreciate that folks like chocolate, but I simply don’t, so I don’t miss not having it.”“Now I want ice cream,” I told him. Which is maybe sort of like being monogamous in that I have restrictions that stop me from sticking my head under a soft serve dispenser, even if I’m tempted.”Discussing bisexuality with gays and straights, men and women, one gets the uncomfortable feeling that here finally is a topic on which they can precisely agree: Bisexuality is icky.I just consider myself ‘me.’” But if the definition of bisexual implies an interest in both sexes, and Amy can relate to that, why not own the label?
When I pressed her to explain why a bisexual wasn’t a viable longterm option, she ticked the reasons off on her fingers.
Marla said she’s “drawn to masculine energy,” no matter what sort of body contains it. “All of the guys I date have the same type-cast—edgy Asian tattooed hipster artists—and I always go for the super butch gals.”Surprisingly, only the straight male mentions bisexuality’s cultural components.
“People’s cultural identities and social lives are connected to their sexuality,” he said.
Before that, I frequently referred to myself as queer (and still do), but I was tired of all the biphobia and ignorance surrounding bisexuality so I made a conscious decision to take it on as a badge of honor and defiance.”Anna and Marla’s determination to take back “bisexual” brings to mind the confusion and negativity surrounding the word “feminist,” another label around which negative, external definitions have collected.“It’s because we’re letting them define us from the outside in,” said Jill.
“Just like with ‘feminist,’ the word itself just means equality between men and women but the wrong, powerful people got hold of it and slowly perception of its meaning has changed.