Christian singles dating guidelines
Give yourself enough time and enough settings where character issues can surface. Individuals can “mask” character issues for an extended period of time – especially a few months during the fantasy period of Christian dating.
But character is the foundation upon which commitment is built.
We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security.
Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate.
These are a wonderful means of finding out which areas you are really in “sync” and where you are apart.
It serves as a basis for building the Christian dating relationship into as healthy a one as possible BEFORE marriage.
The progress of the Christian dating relationship should be shared so that their objectivity and accountability can be a valuable resource to the couple. Once a couple is satisfied that there is something to take to the next level, the couple should develop a plan in how they can best get to know each other in “real settings” not just in Christian dating situations.
This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.
For example: Can the couple enjoy their alone time as well as their together time?
If you answered “yes” to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship.
If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
They mutually agree that this relationship has the great potential of moving into marriage.
It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.