Dating a man with a teenage daughter
Some are single parents and the MIA figure is a pink elephant in the room, everpresent as they are ever absent. There are endless scenarios and everyone operates on different dynamics.A healthy situation, where everyone is respected and boundaries are in place is the best you can hope for, and it’s then up to you to decide if you can handle it or not. You are the only person who needs to feel comfortable with your decisions and if you do, you won’t give some ignorant onlooker the satisfaction. Some day soon, hanging out with her old man won’t be the bees knees anymore. Today she’s crawling around the house in diapers, tomorrow you’re handing her the keys to the car, and before you know it, you’re walking her down the aisle.
She’ll need you to come through for her over and over again throughout her life.
To some (myself included), age ain’t nothin' but a number.
Much like I don’t screen people for specific ethnicities when considering a relationship, I also don’t ask for a date of birth.
An ex fades into the background of your past while an ex with whom you share a child will always be in your life. That racist old lady shooting daggers on the subway in “Save The Last Dance” is probably the only aspect of that movie that reflected real life. It’s not just about him; he’s got other (little) people to consider.
If you have a nasty jealous streak, this kind of relationship (like many others, I’m sure) will not work for you. She exists in subways, mall corridors, restaurants and the like. It’s all VERY EXCITING to someone who likely still believes married folk sleep in side-by-side twin beds. Every decision is weighted a little more heavily and means a little more.