Girls find me intimidating
I tend to let things roll off my back, but I’m not afraid to speak up if something pisses me off.
But actually, it was my therapist who offhandedly made the connection that the qualities I liked best about myself were the ones that were intimidating to the men I was dating.
If I disagreed with him on anything, I’d avoid even a friendly debate, and smile tightly and change the subject.
I tried to make myself appear smaller so I wouldn’t overshadow the man I was out with. A string of egocentric assholes who wanted to me small so that they felt bigger.
Instead, I decided to just be myself — loud mouth and all.
I embraced my independence, my outspoken nature, my wit, my smarts, and, also, the flaws that make me me.