Internet dating real life stories
"And if you're serious, use a serious site, like e Harmony," says Tonya. " Crissy & Mark Baldwin, Boonton, New Jersey The first time Crissy, 32, talked to her husband, Mark, she knew this was the man she'd marry."He was hysterically funny, and I loved his voice," says Crissy, who's currently expecting the couple's fourth child (she has a son from a previous relationship, and Mark, a widower, has two sons).The two went to a live show to see a band they both liked perform, and the rest was history: Rebecca moved in with Ryan three months later, and they got married in October 2007.Lesson learned: Though most online daters spend a lot of time corresponding by email before meeting, Rebecca disagrees: "You run the risk, intentionally or not, of creating these online personas that aren't really you. "He seemed so eloquent and sweet—just a nice, Jewish boy." The pair met for their first date in a bookstore.
I once spent weeks talking to a guy I thought was smart and kind — only to meet him and find out he’s dull and narcissistic. He showed up late carrying a bouquet, wearing a tux, and sweating profusely. The waiter gave me pitying looks as I sat in silence while my oblivious date droned on about I-don’t-even-remember-what. At the mention of dessert, I blurted, “No, I’m ready to go” and put down my credit card, paying for the whole meal so we could get out of there faster.
"I was much more emotionally needy than I would have been otherwise," admits Crissy.
But in a way, she says, her father's illness made her approach to the relationship more stripped down.
If you like each other, set a date to meet." (Just be safe: Meet in a public place, bring a cell phone and be sure someone else knows where you are.) Keren Bernard and Peter Mannes, Brooklyn, New York Keren Bernard, 35, signed on to the dating website JDate (which matches Jewish singles) mostly for fun back in 2005. "He was standing near one of my favorite architecture books.
"A friend of mine was on it, and it was free back then, so I figured why not? There were all these things he wouldn't do, like eat after 8 p.m., and after our first date he sent all these weird emails. And we went out to eat at my favorite Japanese restaurant," says Keren.