Just started dating new years
But maybe the fact of the matter is you choose work over him at this point in your life. He'll read between the lines to figure out what that means in terms of your feelings for him.
Obviously, this one's tough to admit to someone who might have been only interested in you. Maybe you just went through some sort of personal trauma.
A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media.
Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on , she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos."Most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist Cathy Beaton tells Bustle.
Beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "Put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you."Your ex did not get an upgrade.
The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning.
The "telling him you're done" part is easy and self-explanatory.
You say just any variation of "I can't do this anymore" via text, phone call, or in-person conversation (yikes).
If your ex moved on before you did, you might feel as if they won or wonder why you didn't find someone else first.Maybe you guys aren't fully getting back together, but you're talking again and it's just too confusing for you to have this third party involved. He might be frustrated at first, but eventually he'll feel better knowing the reason you ended things wasn't anything he did.Of course, if you really liked him, you'd find a way to make him a priority despite your busy work schedule.A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else.Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life. After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to unfollow him on Facebook so I didn't have a similar experience.