No tie dating
I rarely see him, and I won’t deny he’s somewhat odd, but he causes me no trouble and his rent pays nearly a third of my mortgage.There’s a comforting energy to Richard, one I don’t feel with many people, where having him living here makes me feel safe.I stare at the screen name, the man some algorithm has determined me to be compatible with.This match, this man, doesn’t know my real name, just the random screen name I created a year ago.
He rents the room on the third floor, above my bedroom. It has its own small kitchen, bath, and separate entrance, for which Richard pays me five hundred dollars a month. “Of course.” When he hands me the crisp five-dollar bill, I catch his stare, and his gaze is locked on me. “John.” I write this on a sticker and place it on the lip of a ceramic cup. It’s a game my mind likes to play when it thinks I’m getting complacent, or cured. I meet people every day at the Stone Rose, the coffee shop I own. You might even argue that if someone wanted to stab me, why would they bother relying on knife? I plan on giving Jesus a nice tip at Christmastime. He thinks on this for a moment, as if I’ve asked a deeply personal question. I dismiss it, knowing my past has chiseled and shaped my mind into something that favors fear over sense. I take a deep breath, hold it to the count of four, then release. My diet at home consists of things I can eat with a fork and spoon, and even when I want a slice of butter on my bread, I reach for an individually wrapped packet, the kind you find in restaurants. On my dining room table alone are things that could maim or kill. Cloth napkin shoved down the throat, fingers used to pinch the nose shut. His name is Jesus, and he’s never asked me why I make this request.Carolyn Bradshaw from James Madison University in Virginia and colleagues explored the reasons that motivate college men and women to hook up or to date, as well as the perceived relative benefits and costs of the two practices.Bradshaw and team exposed 150 female and 71 male college students from a southern, public American university to a variety of dating or hooking up situations, such as when there was potential for a relationship, when their partner had a great personality and when drinking was involved.