Online dating conversation ideas
People will either:- Go through a serious of meaningless questions — where are you from? If you can’t come up with something better to ask, either you are boring, or the person you are talking to is boring and isn’t giving you anything else to work with.I get asking this once you’ve been messaging a few days if you ACTUALLY want to know how their day was.This was during the few days of iphone hell, when the “I” was changing, but the message originally said “Ethiopia I guess.” How easy would it have been to just put a “What is your favorite place? ”I borrowed another screenshot from a friend that was almost the exact same scenario: How hard would it have been to add “Where are you thinking of vacationing? Sometimes, a conversation does just run its natural course.In the early stages, it can feel awkward abruptly changing the subject. And hopefully you have swiped on someone with interesting photos and/or a good bio, and you have something else you can ask them.While we are worried about who should message who first, or making sure we don’t respond right away so as not to seem over-eager, someone who would have been good for us might be meeting someone else who actually talks to them like a normal person.Plus, a guy that is going to be put off by the fact that I’m willing to message first is not my kind of guy anyway.I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions just because you can’t even give me a starting point.Exhibit B: A very common thing I notice is that men love to complain that women send boring openers on bumble (which is fair, women frequently complain about the boring openers that men send on every other app).
This is the BIGGEST issue I encounter on dating apps. That was legitimately the main reason I needed a break.
But even with me putting in a lot more effort than some women are willing to put in, the results I get are horrific.
With that being said, here are a few tips on how to have an actual conversation. But there shouldn’t be any sexual messages exchanged before a first meeting.
But coming right out the gate with shallow comments isn’t the move.
And acting like someone doesn’t need to have personality just because they are attractive is basically saying “I don’t care about what you have to say.” I know some people feel like they DON’T need to have personality because they are attractive but 1. If you haven’t seen an indication of someone feeling this way, why automatically assume they feel so entitled?