Stop playing dating games psychological tips for dating
Like John Travolta’s character Danny Zuko in Grease, the men of today (and yesteryear) all labour through the trials of dating under the misguided notion that “playing it cool” gets the girl. Well, if the dating game today is anything to go by, then apparently we do. Following “The Rules” that state that you cannot seem too interested in a guy is probably the wrong way to go about getting your man. Do we really think that “treat ’em mean to keep ’em keen” is really all it’s cracked up to be?If someone is playing hard to get they will avoid hurting your feelings unnecessarily.They will call when they are thinking of you and if they say they will meet for coffee then that’s what they will do.You could end up missing out on the love of your life because neither of you was willing to admit your interest in the other.So maybe it’s time to drop the mind games and get back to some good, honest romance and leave “playing it cool” to the Danny Zukos of this world.You might have told all your friends that you are done with playing games, and you just want to be honest with the next person you date. It’s all well and good being straight and upfront with your next date, but if you are looking for something serious then honesty might not be the best policy.
A person who is playing hard to get will more than likely have other guys or girls that are interested in them.
In fact, you'll be more emotionally in debt than you were before you decided to play the game.
To gain some professional insight on this topic, I spoke with relationship experts and coaches about what makes a relationship work, what doesn't, and why people feel the need to play relationship games in the first place.
The guy or girl playing hard to get will still give off those tell tale signs that we just mentioned.
You will feel encouraged and even though they are playing hard to get, you can still talk to them and approach them.