The guy im not dating
Typically sane individuals can become a jumble of nerves, anxiety and expectations.
So when one person decides he/she isn’t interested in pursuing the relationship further, it can be tempting to want to avoid confrontation or hurt feelings.
It’s normal that, over the course of a month, your feelings would start to deepen and develop.
But one month is still a short period of time and unless you’re quite positive that he’s on the same love track as you are, I would lean back and play it cool.
I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want to waste her time either. In my opinion, this one is pretty simple; all it takes is just a bit of maturity combined with honesty and sensitivity. When two people begin to date, they put so much on the line.
I applaud you for writing in about a dating scenario that is all too often mishandled.
Instead of forcing him to have a potentially uncomfortable conversation before he’s figured out his feelings, why don’t you just wait to see him reveal his feelings?
Believe me, if he’s calling you every day and wants to see you four nights a week, you can be pretty sure that he’s serious about you.
You should know how he’s feeling based on the effort he’s making for you.Make every effort to handle the situation with an appropriate level of consideration and maturity. I like to say that there is seldom a better time than now to tell someone what is true for you, especially if that truth has consequences for the other person.Yes, delivering the “I’m not interested” message to any feeling person will be a bit uncomfortable.Otherwise, people can be left destabilized, questioning themselves and more guarded for the next relationship.While the truth definitely needs to be told, the more you can embed this truth in a dignified context, the easier it will be understood and received. Use your knowledge of the person and your interactions to guide what you say. If you need some help with the actual words you use, here’s a good place to start: “This is not easy for me to say, and perhaps it won’t be easy for you to hear.